Affirmative consent is a knowing, voluntary and mutual decision among all participants to engage in sexual activity. You can use the Got Consent: Be SU.R.E. campaign to make sure you have consent throughout your entire sexual activity.
Got Consent? Be SU.R.E.
SU: Shared Understanding
- Voluntary and freely given (not coercive)
- Mutual: all participants want “this” to happen
- All participants have agreed to whatever “this” is
- Informed: Think about what kind of information would be important to share to be informed before engaging in sexual activities
- Clear-minded: The person has the capacity to understand and make judgement
- Not passive
- Wanting to participate
- Actively involved
- The initiator is always responsible for getting consent, and it is possible that the initiator might change throughout the sexual interaction.
- Consent can be given by words or actions, as long as those words or actions create clear permission regarding willingness to engage in the sexual activity.
- Silence or lack of resistance, in and of itself, does not demonstrate consent.
- The definition of consent does not vary based upon a participant’s sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression.
What consent looks like:
The following Laci Green video talks about how you can be sure you have affirmative consent.